The desire and the pining of wanting to live a different life, to be a “better person” to be successful to get that promotion, to step into leadership, to become a hafid of Quran, to become someone that people trust and look up to feels scary.
Because to become this person you dream about you have to think, act, and do differently.
Einstein said it the best, The definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over again expecting different results.
Think about what that actually means. Every time you’re asked to respond differently than you always have, quieter instead of louder, patient instead of decisive, still instead of moving, you have zero prior evidence that this other version of you even works. No track record. No proof it’ll land. You’re being asked to trust a person you’ve never actually met.
No wonder most of us don’t do it. We stay in the one gear we know produces results, because at least we’ve seen that gear work before.
But here’s what I want to sit with today, because I think it’s the actual engine underneath range, not just the definition of it: developing range isn’t primarily a skills problem. It’s a trust problem.